Time repeats itself !

The incident or story which I am going to share with you is a real life story told by my very close friend. This is 100% true and without any exaggeration, and my friend told this thing as his personal experience which I am sharing with you people. I would not share the original names since this might not be considered good but all I am going to share is in good spirit and for a purpose.

This story is about an old man (Let’s call him Dada) and his children, some people might feel that it’s sounding like movies and especially “Baghban” but trust me it’s a real life incident.

Dada has 3 sons; the youngest son (aging around 37-38) is a special person with mental illness and physical disabilities (almost bedridden and can’t speak or stand up without anyone’s support).

The eldest son is in Austalia for the last 20+ years and the other son has recently gone to Australia few years back.

Dada used to live with dadi and his youngest son (special child, let’s call him Chachu) in Karachi. Special thing about dada is that he had “Permanent Residency” but he came back from Australia just to live with his son in Lahore. Dadi died 3 years back which leaves Dada and chachu alone at home.  Dada hired a caretaker since Dada can’t take care of chachu due to his aging body.

Dada had Permanent Residency but preferred to stay in Lahore with Chachu, on the other hand the two elder brothers who should have stayed in Lahore with their aging parents & a seriously ill brother, preferred to stay abroad. The eldest son (working in a very good organization and on a very good post) is totally Australian Gora now, by that I mean he’s totally robotic, less sensitive towards family issues and who’s always busy with himself (like all Americans or Australians) while the other son went to Australia after the wait for almost 10 years. After he left for Australia, Dadi died maybe in despair or maybe she missed her children very much.

The thing which amazes my friend is Dada’s patience and his strong will power MASHALLAH. My Friend told that he has never seen him complaining or moaning about his children (which is a usual reaction from parents when their children leave them). Rather he has always been supporting for his sons that they have a tough life there in US and they have their families to look after.

Recently chachu got ill and the thing which really surprised my friend was that the eldest son said I would send money and started shouting on the caretaker that he does not take care of his brother, but he being very busy in his job in Australia cannot come here and look after his brother himself. While the other brother could not come back due to his Permanent residency process and other related matters.

I don’t know that how long would that old man and his son would survive, but I wonder how materialistic and selfish we have become, even for our blood relations. On one hand we have Dada who threw away all the comforts, Permanent Residency and came back to Pakistan just to stay with his child and on the other hand we have his children, who thinks for themselves and their families only and forgot that they have got their Father and brother alive too, who needs special attention and to be very harsh they need someone to be with them at least for their survival.

This is a usual story in today’s materialistic world; you can see many examples of such type in your surroundings if you observe. The reason why I shared this story is that we must take care of our parents especially when they are getting old. This might sound preaching and a bit clichéd but truth remains the same that the parents who taught us how to speak, how to walk and how to take decisions, are the victims of our shouting and our tough decisions.

What I have learnt with my very little experience of life and reality, I have realized that we can get replacement of almost every relation except of parents. Love, respect, take their sincere prayers with yourself and take care of your parents and grandparents before it’s too late and because whatever you are, it is just because of them (directly or indirectly) and remember more one thing that one day you will get older and you will be parents as well and as the history tells.